From Awakening to Ascension – The Path of Mastery

How we progress on our spiritual path from seeker to wise master has always been a fascination for me. As with most things, I asked my teachers in Spirit for insight on this topic, and they gave me what I share with you here.

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We are in an incredible time of awakening. I hear many speak of ascension, becoming five-dimensional beings and having enlightenment. We are on an accelerated path to higher consciousness, but we must be cognizant and have respect for the process of ascending to the promise this time holds. There is a great deal of discipline to master, and many things yet to know so that you may fully embrace the potential this time has to offer.

Below are the levels of awareness and mastery that we each pass through to embody the vision and potential of ascension.


Instinct picks up energy through cellular receptors to signal dangers and potential dangers. We naturally use it when we are in unfamiliar surroundings to get a sense of the place and if we are safe there. Most people claim to have and utilize instinct. It is a common trait among all life on Earth to help with survival. However, instinct can be enhanced or ignored by conscious thought.


When we pay attention to instinct, we can develop it into intuition. Intuition can give us more information than instinct. While instinct will tell us if we are safe or not safe intuition can tell us if the energy is supportive or not supportive. Intuition tells us if there is tension in the room, what mood someone is in, and is attuned into subtle signals and changes in the energy field. By paying attention to our intuition we begin to develop our receptors through more pathways than cellular. We can develop an extra heightened awareness of feeling, hearing, knowing, and seeing and utilizing them for more information. Many describe their intuitive senses as ‘having a feeling’ or ‘just knowing’ what is being made aware to them. Trusting your intuition helps to build your psychic senses.


While instinct will tell you if the place you are in is safe or unsafe, and intuition will help you sense if it is supportive or not supportive, the psychic sense will let you know what will happen before you go into the place. The psychic senses can jump through time and space to predict the future. It is like sending a time traveler ahead to scout the energy. Without training and discipline, the psychic senses may pick up random signals that can be confusing like a radio antenna picking up static. With discipline and training the psychic senses become more reliable and accurate leading to a profound awakening.


Once the psychic senses can be relied upon as accurate, we can awaken to a heightened state of being. In this state of awareness, we may connect with places and beings outside of our physical reality. We can do this through altered states of consciousness such as meditation and journey, and we can connect with other realms such as the angelic realms, the dimensions of the star nations, and of course, connect with our Spirit Guides with ease. Being guided by wise masters of other domains and getting the keys to the mysteries of the universe requires not only to trust in the accuracy of your psychic sense but acute self-awareness and understanding of your beliefs.. When we gaze into the wonders of the heavens, our lens must be clear and not clouded by judgment or confined by what we believe we should see.


After embracing our awakening and being guided by the masters of wisdom we may experience enlightenment. Enlightenment is an experience that brings awakening into being, creating a life of ease, trust, truth, love, and joy. Enlightenment may come as a moment of insight and beauty. Enlightenment is a state of being that must be experienced. It is a knowing that fills the entire being and all levels of consciousness from the cellular level to the soul level and every part of being in between. It may last only a second, but that is long enough to bring about healing to consciousness. Sustaining enlightenment as a permanent state of being is not common, nor is it necessary for mastery.


Mastery comes after enlightenment has infused all levels of being with understanding, knowing, insight, and the wisdom of not only the mysteries of being but a profound self-awareness. Mastery is obtained by a deep connection of all that is and by learning and following the Sacred Laws, as do the Ascended Masters, the Angelic Realms, and the Star Nations. We become masters through implementing the Sacred Laws into our daily lives, diving deep into self-awareness, embracing our psychic senses, and releasing confining belief systems. Masters know how to create miracles, live in synchronistic harmony with all of life, and love without constraint or condition.

As we embrace this time of possibilities know that we are not doing this entirely on our own, our Spirit Guides and Angels are here to support and help us every step of the way.

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The Truth of Who You Are

The truth of who you are is the spark of God in your soul experiencing the world.

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To my way of thinking, the truth of who you are is on purpose. The heavens, the cosmos, God, Goddess, Earth or whatever power that created you, made you just so. You are the perfect creation of eons of evolution coupled with a wish made by divinity.

The truth of who you are became into being and is held by all of life to continue just as you wish to be. The truth of who you are is the spark of God in your soul experiencing the world.  Divinity lives through you just as you are. Your strangeness, your quirks, your sameness, or your originality are all meant to be expressed and lived.

Living the truth of who you are is healing, loving and courageous. Who you are is who you are supposed to be. The Earth supports you because she created you exactly right.

If we think who we are is wrong, we are believing a lie. It is not wrong to be what you were born to be. It is perfect.

When we think others are wrong to be who they are, if we think there is a flaw in their race, gender identity, sexuality, financial or social status, then we are also denying the perfection with us.

Allowing the truth of others with acceptance will show you the beauty of the truth within you.

Honor the truth of who you are, and you will be guided by the power of grace.

Why to NOT be Psychic

Being mindful of when you are turning on your senses to feel into a situation or person is key to having a clear connection with Spirit.

Audio version below:

“Why to NOT be Psychic” audio version by Janet Kadow

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It has taken years for me to perfect not reading people, not tuning in to people, and not psychically checking in when I am worried about someone. Now, my boundaries are clear and I have an abundance of energy and clarity when I do a reading by request and permission. There is nothing I can think of that is more intrusive than someone psychically reading you without your permission. Those who are untrained and undisciplined with their gifts read people unconsciously.

I don’t psychically read people unless we are actually in a session and only on topics that are brought up. So if there is something going on with you, you need to tell me, no matter how close we are, I will not know about it unless you tell me.

If there is something you want to hide from me, it will always remain hidden. I can’t dive into your secrets without your knowledge and permission.

Why would I not want to know if someone I love is in distress or needs help? Why would I regulate my psychic senses to such an extreme? Why would I not use my gifts to help people even if they don’t ask for help?

The primary reason is that it depletes my energy every time I use my psychic senses if I don’t have intention or purpose for using them. This will drain me to exhaustion. Going to the store, a party, or a concert can exhaust psychics, because they are very busy tuning into others and get depleted just by the power they use to do this.

The next reason is the Law of Reflection, which is like karma but subtler. What I do to others I allow done to me. I have no defenses of being read against my will if I’m psychically snooping around other people. Whatever protection you have in place to keep your energy field clear is compromised every time you sneak a peek at someone else. You will not only be susceptible to another’s psychic spying, but you will also be vulnerable to picking up all kinds of negative energy because you have compromised your defenses.

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The third reason is that I will most likely be wrong. The chances of being wrong when psychically tuning into another without their request and permission is very high. I have never had a random reading about me be accurate. I have had very well-meaning people say they have a message to give me without my request. In those unsolicited readings I have gotten dire warnings about my future or some ‘important’ advice. They were always wrong.

If you are being a very busy-body nosy-rosy and interfering with your well-meaning not-so-sage advice then you are breaking the Law of Non-Interference which holds karmic consequences. This is the fourth reason I do not read others without their permission. If I get a psychic ‘hit’ and tell the person about it who has not asked for my help, anything they do in response to that is on me. I could have possibly just interfered with the very important part of their life path, and now I have to deal with it. How that manifests is anybody’s guess, but I think it is better to not take on more karma to deal with.

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The final and most important reason not to have my psychic button on “ON” all the time is that breaking the Sacred Laws makes it more difficult to align with Spirit, with the Guides and with the Angels, making access to the highest wisdom elusive. Personally, I want to always have access to truth, wisdom and love as much as possible. This is important for my behalf and for my students and clients. I must be impeccable in my integrity with the Sacred Laws of Non-Interference and the Law of Free Will, and be mindful of the Law of Reflection, to get the information that will help us all live up to our potential. Without getting information like that, what good are the psychic senses, anyway?

Being mindful of when you are turning on your senses to feel into a situation or person is key to having a clear connection with Spirit. Keeping your psychic senses to yourself, being aware of those energy boundaries and how you are focusing energy is the first step to building on your gifts.

What it Means to ‘Be of Service’

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It was a hot day on a mountain plateau in Montana. The First International Sundance was beginning, and I was paying attention, not just to the task at hand but to my physical body. Was I hydrated? What was my energy level? Balancing my rest, activity, nutrition, and hydration for me to support the community in the pop-up kitchen was the most important task I had to be of service during the days-long ceremony involving over a hundred people. Being alert to my needs and limitations kept me standing for hours and in service for days even while dry camping in the heat. It changed me. I became alert to flowing with the pulse of life and Spirit. I was at once giving and receiving. Life and Spirit joined in harmonious flow through me in the moment for each moment. It was one of the most profound experiences of my life.
A few years before, I had learned the importance of ‘radical self-reliance’, a term used at Burning Man. Camping without infrastructure taught me the slim thread of life that depends so much on what we take for granted. The most desolate place in Nevada becomes a city of tens of thousands for a week, yet the people of the city are not co-dependent they are radically independent. Each of us mindful of how much water, food and supplies will last for a week without electricity or running water makes for an awakening not just to mortality but to the delicate substance of what life is made. Responsibility is a common buzzword there. Most outsiders see Burning Man as a modern-day hippie love-in. But the profound lessons of self-care and personal responsibility were the perfect training ground for the coming intense ceremonies of my spiritual training.
In spiritual initiations and ceremonies you can learn the hard way that everyone there is relying on you to take care of yourself so you may fulfill your role and be of service. When someone is not caring for themselves it affects the whole group. If one loses consciousness or needs care, it affects us all. We cannot be mindless of our water intake or overextend our activity by staying up late. We must be mindful of our every action to be of service to the whole, to hold the powerful energy shifts in ceremony and to facilitate the changes needed for healing.
I teach how to work with Spirit in a variety of ways and when I ask a new student why they want to learn most say they want to be of service. They come to me determined and dedicated to awaken to this power and driven to share their gifts with others, but they have to wait for that, because the first lessons always are how to work with Spirit to help themselves.
Through many years of these experiences I have learned a deep respect for life, and respect for what can compromise or even take away life. Being of service means not just being present to help others but being profoundly mindful of your personal actions and how they will or will not support the whole group.
We do not learn this in our culture. We learn the opposite in the American way of life. We learn that our personal rights are the sacred and what we do is our business and our business alone. We do not see the delicate strands of life that depend on cooperation in communities, nor do we see how important personal responsibility is to the whole. We think this comes from the pioneering spirit that took settlers out into the wilderness to claim a stake of the American Dream for themselves. But that is a myth. They moved as groups and settled in groups that relied on each other to survive. They supported each other and were responsible to one another for their survival. They were self-reliant but if they came to be in need they were cared for by the community, because the loss of one is a loss for all.
Being of service means having respect for all others, for self, for what gives us life and for what takes away life. When we have respect for all we are in the rhythm of a life of service. The ebb and flow of giving and receiving that makes for an extraordinary way of being. Being aware of how you relate to the world and, in reflection, the world relates to you is a powerful way to live.
We can live in these times being mindful of such things, or we can feel threatened that the new rules will take away our personal choices and independence. But through these years, decades now, of spiritual training, I can see that the delicate strands of life have always depended on our support and connection to one another. True independence is a myth. It never was that way.
In these times, our survival depends on an abiding respect for all of life, being mindful of our needs and cooperating to support the needs of others. This is the experience of being of service, it is the greatest calling one can have and I recommend it with all my heart.

Understanding Fear in the Collective Consciousness

With each crisis, we are awakening to evolve beyond our own limited beliefs and see into the beauty of the Truth.

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In truth, the world is not a scary place. The world is just the world. Neither evil nor paradise, it is only what it is to us by how we perceive it. As spiritual people, we have heard that we create our reality. We see the beauty or the terror of the world as our limiting beliefs allow us. For most of the people in the world we build our beliefs upon our culture, experience and what we are told is true by religion or family.

The spiritual seeker endeavors to find truth and wisdom beyond their limiting beliefs. They take the steps beyond the beliefs created by the outer world and seek wisdom by creating a connection and awareness to the inner world, or to the expansive consciousness of the heavenly realms, or both.

The spiritual seeker who can reach beyond the noise and confusion and illusion of human consciousness finds where Truth resides. Truth resides above the fray of opinion and belief. Truth resides in the heart of the universe. The heart of the universe that keeps expanding with the act of creation. The heart of the universe holds no fear or doubt but is ever present in the exquisite experience of being. The truth is never painful, the truth will never create fear, the truth will always be a blessing and potentially begin the journey of healing for those willing to embrace it.

Some of us were raised to fear the truth and have felt better for leaving well enough alone and not investigating what will reveal the truth. Again, I repeat, the truth is never painful — the truth may cause the shattering of a long-held illusion or belief and that shattering may be painful. We can feel disappointed and betrayed when something is revealed that goes against a long-held belief. Yet this is a normal and common experience of the spiritual seeker. Those who are dedicated to the path of Truth do not fear the shattering of illusion and the pain that it may bring. That is just the ego in pain! It is not a physical pain nor a soul-level pain; it is the pain of the ego losing power.

Embrace the illusions shattering, it is awakening the heart.

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Like an adventurer climbs on to reach the summit of a high mountain peak, the true spiritual seeker weathers any circumstance to find the Truth. This journey is not for the faint of heart, it is not for those seeking a life of ease, it is not for those who have comfort in their material gains. One must be robust, courageous, and have unrelenting fortitude. The spiritual journey may be a dark and treacherous way of life and those on that journey are exceedingly brave.

The common perception is that spirituality makes life easier and that spiritual people are living in an illusion ungrounded in the world, filled up with the woo-woo high of love and light. Connecting with Spirit can give you a high and some people stop their journey there. This is a dangerous place to live, just as being high on drugs all the time can be a dangerous place to live. This spirit-high can come through mediation, mediumship, channeling and so on. It is not to be confused with the experience of nirvana, enlightenment or oneness.

Having oneness with All That Is creates an extraordinary feeling of love, bliss, and a high that’s not replicated any other way. It is unique and unfathomable to all who have not experienced it. In that oneness, for those who have experienced the True oneness, we can see the suffering that illusion causes and strive to assist others out of suffering. We who know the heart of Divinity and we come in service to those who have yet to know it. The only way to know oneness with Divinity is to break down the power of the ego, and to break down the power of the ego one must be devoted to discovering the Truth.

At this point in time, the collective consciousness is in a state of fear and, for those attuned to spiritual awareness, we know that fear is an illusion created by the ego to keep control of the psyche. We have explored this, seen this in our own experience and traversed through our fears relentlessly for years. It can take years before we integrate this concept into the knowing of the mind. Once we understand how fear attempts to control us, we can manage it, and even have mastery over it, but we will never control it. Fear cannot be controlled. It can be seen and understood, and through the seeing and understanding of our fears we defuse their power. Then the energy will clear, and we may see passed the fear to the Truth. Once our fears have no power over us, we will see the Truth.

Yet, if we are not in an advanced state of spiritual development, we are susceptible to being controlled by our fears and the fears of others. Those who are holding on to the spirit-high level of awareness and not advancing to deeper understanding may have an intellectual knowledge of the concepts of fear and illusion but have not integrated it enough to practice mastery over fear. Being awakened to the level of the high is also the level where sensitivity is open to the collective consciousness and the chaotic energy of illusion created by the fears.

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This bears repeating. Those who are spiritual but have stayed in the etheric ‘high’ and not explored their own psyche, are susceptible to being controlled by their fears and will be open to being controlled by the fears of others. Being in the high awakens sensitivity to all types of energies, those that feel good and those that feel bad. If one does not advance beyond the spirit-high and explore their own psyches, they will be controlled by fear more easily than those who have never connected with Spirit or opened their awareness. We will have awakened to being sensitive to the gifts of Spirit and awakened to being sensitive to negative energies of others. This makes one easily manipulated, deluded, controlled, fearful and paranoid.

When fear advances to paranoia it is difficult to shake and can become a solidified belief that becomes part of ego identity. Once fear becomes an aspect of ego identity, the spiritual seeker will have to go through a painful shattering to go beyond it. This is important to understand. As each new challenge for survival surfaces, humanity must rise above it to survive. Yet each new challenge also reaches a new level of fear for the collective to get past. Now, the collective consciousness of humanity is fearing for its survival.

Spiritual people are easily manipulated by fear, we just do not know it because we are in denial. We feel the fear in the ethers, the fear for our survival. Some spiritual people will be in denial of that fear because the messages they get from Spirit are all life affirming. This is true we are not all going to die, yet the fear still exists and must have a reason for existing. So, the person on the spirit-high level of awareness seeks a reason for the fear and lands on conspiracy theories. The formula for every conspiracy theory is that there are secret powers at work creating the means for our destruction or to control us. It is convenient because we cannot disprove it, we cannot disprove the existence of a secret, or a secret society, because it is secret! It is also convenient because it gives us a reason that we are feeling the way we do without having to dive deep into our psyches and find the Truth.

Conspiracy theories are embraced by spiritual seekers who have not the fortitude to climb the mountain but prefer to stay on the spirit-high level of awareness.

Yet, we need not be advanced spiritual seekers or even spiritual at all to remove ourselves from the collective fear and be present to love, compassion, generosity, kindness, and gratitude. We have many times ahead that will challenge us to see past the fear in the collective consciousness of humanity and into the heart of Divinity. With each crisis, we are awakening to evolve beyond our own limited beliefs and see into the beauty of the Truth. Consider this a practice run, and each time it will get easier and easier to understand the Truth and connect into the love that will carry us into the next level of awakening.

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This is time to heal our broken psyches and awaken to this beautiful world through the power of love and then we may love all of those who hold her dear.

Staying in the power of compassion, love, empathy and kindness keeps us from being enveloped by the mass consciousness of fear and guides us easily to see the Truth which awakens us closer to the essence of All That Is and out of the fear consciousness present in any crisis.

Be The Light

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I do not care if you believe a cabal of evil scientists funded by the Illuminati created this virus to take out your Auntie GinGin once and for all. We, as spiritual people, are being called upon to hold the light. Holding the light is what eliminates the dark. It isn’t fancy, it isn’t rocket science.

We need do nothing but be the light. When we turn on a light in a dark room the dark disappears. That is as much ‘fighting’ we need do.

Shine the light and all is revealed, healed and understood.

The light will always win over the dark.

Shining the light means helping others compassionately and respectfully.

It means being of service with your whole heart.

It means using your voice in the frequency of love to reverberate a soundwave that will never die.

It means being kind to one another.

It means being patient and creating small spaces of peace.

Being the light is being the midwife for Truth, Love, and Healing.

Being the light is not spreading conspiracy theories or pointing fingers, being the light need never seek revenge but trusts the universe shall always seek balance in every action.

We will always have moments of darkness to blame the “other”, yet when we strive to be the light those moments will be brief, and we will again rise to the extraordinary gift of the light.

May we all be the light and harmonize with the extraordinary frequency that created all that is: Love.

Sending love to all

– Janet Kadow

Arcane Laws of the Universe

Join us for The Arcane Laws of the Universe with Beatrex and Janet!

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This event is a gift from Janet and Beatrex and there is no charge.

Back Together again Beatrex Quntanna and Janet Kadow will be presenting:

“The Arcane Laws of the Universe”

on Zoom Wednesday, January 29th at 12:00 noon Pacific Time.

The Arcane Laws teach the aspects of the force of manifestation and creation. This is a MUST KNOW for Every person interested in the Law of Attraction and the principles of manifestation

These are ancient laws handed down through the generations and now are understood by very few teachers living in the west.

These powerful teachings are being presented here to preserve their wisdom and ignite our futures.

During this event, Beatrex will teach how to utilize their power to bring ease and joy to your life!

Be a part of the experience! No need for RSVP, just click the link to join us at noon, Wednesday, January 29 on Zoom! Just click to join!

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After the Awakening

We’ve taken a peek into the mystery. We’ve had a glimpse into worlds beyond our own. Reality shifts before our very eyes in our day to day experience. We have seen that the potential of the human mind and the human heart is infinite. We are supported by unseen hands and guided by a wisdom that speaks through our very souls. Altered states of consciousness have shown us how to shape our own reality, creating happiness where there was none, healing our source of pain and even enlightening the darkened existence of humanity. And there are more of us able to do this every day. More of us from all walks of life, more of us with a variety of educations, backgrounds and belief systems, more of us walking in wonderment and awake to it all. We are of the light, in the light and we are the light.
Where do we go and what can we do with such wisdom? How can we help others and share with the world how easy it is to touch the infinite and be healed? We are on the outside looking into the world and hoping to bring to it the light of divinity. Sciences disregard us, religions excommunicate us, even our families are wary of our new state of being. The institutions of man have no need nor desire to embrace enlightenment. If you are a healer, seer, psychic, seeker or channel you have felt the isolation of no longer being a part of the world. You have to hide what has become the core of your experience to accommodate the dark. Yet, you should not hide. Why would we turn off the light so the darkness is not offended? You have the light and are the light and the light shall always and forever eliminate the dark just because it exists.
You may not know how to share what you have become, what you have seen, what you now know and what you can now do. You do not need to share your experiences, your abilities, and your wisdom if you do not feel welcome to do it. You may choose to be quiet with it. It still carries power and expands around you to the world. Your light can brighten this world before the darkness even notices. Come out of the shadows and be present. Be who you are and be true to yourself. We can be who we are without argument. We can be who we are without anyone else having to be anything other than what they are. We can be who we are without grandstanding or explaining. The light is humble, the light is generous, the light is gracious, and the light is powerful. The light needs not to change the world but only illuminate the world. Once the world is illuminated the world will change. What has been hiding in the dark will skitter away and then the world shall become a more beautiful place to be.
All you need to do is be the light.

What It Takes to Be Guided by Spirit

I remember being told all my life that we have angels guiding and protecting us. I always wondered about this – I wondered how I could communicate with them, how I could see them, if I could know their names and if it were even true. I also wondered about what God was, how God works in our lives and if there is fate or destiny or really a greater force making it all happen.
After I had my son, I decided it was time to find out and over the years my curiosity led me to a greater understanding, awareness, and connection to the mysteries that work to support our lives every day.

This curiosity has given me an amazing life over the past 20 years. Amazing. It has not been joyful and easy, but it has been amazing. My psychic senses are alive and awake, my understanding about the integrity of using this power is deep and integrated and my connection to Spirit is profound, experiential and dynamic.

I say this not to brag but to inspire and encourage you. I was an ordinary person with an ordinary life. Very ordinary. The only thing different about me was my determination to satisfy my curiosity. I followed my curiosity with an appetite for wisdom. I read everything about Spiritual growth and self-help. I tried many different techniques to awaken my psychic senses and see what is unseen. I worked very hard to ‘hear’ and ‘see’ my Spirit Guides. It took years before I felt I got anywhere. It took years of learning many things, practicing many different ways of living and trying all kinds of practices to make it happen. I became exhausted by it. I realized there had to be an easier way. A more direct way to get the wisdom insight and guidance that I inherently knew was available to everyone on Earth. I wanted to talk to Spirit myself. I wanted to know my Spirit Guide, know his name, and have conversations with him. I wanted to channel and get answers straight from the source.

I learned to channel. I eventually realized how much I had been channeling all along (just as most people), but that is another story. Once I learned to channel it became just the beginning of my Spiritual path. I had to navigate all the crazy tricks the ego plays to keep me separate from Spirit. All the fears and doubts I had to deal with until I could have moments of absolute faith and trust to experience the miraculous moments that make my life amazing. It is the moments of faith and trust that make the miraculous possible.

That pesky ego, though. The ego hates to let go of control and does not want to participate in any experience of oneness. The ego likes to be separate from all others and does so by either elevating itself (being egotistical) or diminishing itself (having low self-esteem) and by using judgment, fear, and doubt to keep our intuition, our Spiritual connection and access to our own inner wisdom at bay. Learning the many ways in which the ego keeps dominance in our lives was more complicated than learning how to access divine wisdom. But, since I did have access to divine wisdom, I was able to navigate the path with much more ease than if I had not known how to connect with Spirit. And, just as I was determined to get access to the answers of the mysteries, so I was determined to understand what stops me and how to overcome it. Now I am equally determined to help others through it as well.

It takes curiosity first to lead the way. You must have a lot of questions in order to get a lot of answers. It is impossible to get answers if you don’t have questions. I know many who have connected with their guides but have nothing to ask them. They have access to all the wisdom of all the ages yet have not a single thing to ask. If you are not curious the Spiritual path may not be for you.

Then comes trust. You must know how and when to trust yourself and to learn the dynamics between ego and Spirit in order to feel secure enough to trust. Trust takes practice and trial and error. Trust is a slow process over time and your guides are willing to help you every step of the way. Just like a kindly friend helping a blind person to not stumble. The friend will do all it takes to help you step by step, but if you do not trust your friend it will be a very long and difficult process. The more you can trust yourself and Spirit the easier the path is.

The last and most profound piece to following the path of Spirit is faith. Faith is not belief, but faith is knowing that Spirit has got you. Belief is a construct of the ego; faith is a profound trust in Spirit and is the only way to manifest with Spirit. Spirit cannot help you if you do not know with all your heart that they can. Faith usually activates when all we have left is a prayer and we realize we have no control over a situation. If we are truly in faith all we ask for will come without any effort on our part. Your ego will argue with that statement and give all the reasons and examples of how that is not true, but I have many personal experiences to the contrary.

Curiosity, trust, and faith are all that is needed to be guided by Spirit and to have a life with miracles blessing your path. It is not easy, but it is amazing – and you can do it even if you are ordinary, like me.

For more information about walking the spiritual path and growing in your connection with Spirit contact Janet Blessings at 619-866-4405 or email

What I Know About Connecting with Those on the Other Side


When we lose someone who was part of our life it is hard. It is hard even if we did not like them, or if we haven’t seen them for some time. Grief still happens.  Grief still occurs, and it occurs on all levels of consciousness. It is a process that we go through whether we know it or not and it takes its own time. It cycles through our being on every level; mental, emotional, physical, and soul levels. It comes in waves, and floods and deep pain. For a normal healthy person, this process can take at least a year, even if they were not a significant person in your life or if they were an abuser who you hated. In those cases, the process may not appear as dramatic as losing a spouse, close friend or a family member but it still occurs.

Whatever the person was to you in your life their death will bring up the negative and positive of who they were to you and amplify it. Loss also amplifies guilt. Grief and guilt go hand in hand in many cases. What we didn’t say or did say, what we didn’t do or did do brings up feelings of regret and guilt. The longer and more intimate your relationship the more profound feelings of regret and guilt will be. Most healthy people can come to terms with what was through reflection and acceptance. In an emotionally unhealthy person, these feelings of regret and guilt can manifest in anger, blame, shame and can even become a lifelong process of pain.

Talking to the other side should not be this complicated, so why do I bring up grief? Because as spiritual practitioners we need to be aware that those wishing to connect to a lost loved one are in a state of loss, even if it has been years since the crossing. All these emotions of pain, loss, regret, and guilt may be playing a part in their desire to connect. On the other hand, if they have worked through the pain they will still feel the loss but have made peace with the past and no longer feel regret and guilt. Those who have done work with their grief will be easy to assist and most likely their loved one will be easy to connect with. It is much harder to connect with those on the other side if the one on this side is still in the throes of grief and the myriad of emotions that come with it. Every medium who wishes to assist people to reconnect with lost loved ones needs to be aware of what state the person is in.

Life beyond the veil that keeps heaven and Earth in separate realms is a mystery to us on Earth. It will always be a mystery. We have hints and clues of what it is like for those who have crossed, but we have very little understanding of it outside of religious teaching, which creates belief, that may or may not be the reality. In spiritual things, I go with what I experience and what I have been taught by Spirit directly and what I have learned from communicating with those who have crossed – those are the sources for my insight and my teaching. No other spiritual teacher, religious teacher or tradition influences by belief about the other side. I encourage all people at all times to seek the truth for themselves and don’t take my word for it. Seek out answers from your own guidance and you will know the truth when you get it. I teach connecting with Spirit so everyone can get the truth from the source of their own knowing.  This is key to connecting with those on the other side. Do not be influenced by judgment, or your belief about what they should be going through in the other realm. If they did bad things in life are they condemned by God or karma to pay for their bad things? My guidance says there is no punishment in the Spirit realm, but this is a good question to ask and answer for yourself. It is also a good question to ask those you are assisting to connect with their lost loved one. What do they believe about what has happened to their person once they left the Earth? Their belief is going to have an impact on whether or not they will be able to speak with someone who has crossed over.

In my experience the most difficult crossing is suicide. Every religious tradition condemns it and speaks of suffering – sometimes for eternity – of those who left this world by their own doing. This is traumatic for those who lost someone to suicide. It is profoundly painful for those in this side to think of someone they love in eternal suffering. Think of a mother losing her child to suicide only to have a priest tell them that their child is now condemned to hell by God. Coping with loss and the deep pain of eternal damnation is a torture that may last the rest of her life. My guidance says differently, but belief is a powerful force that cannot be changed overnight. My guidance says suicide is a result of mental illness and sometimes physical illness. No normal healthy person commits suicide. Illness is always the cause. Illness being the cause of suicide it is no different than cancer or some other disease that ends with death. I have spoken to those who have crossed due to suicide and not one has ever said they were being punished.

For that matter, no one I have ever spoken to on the other side has ever mentioned any negative experience being there. They are all in Spirit, with Spirit and very well indeed. They are always happy, always joyful and always willing to help the ones they left behind. No one has ever said, “it’s really hot here, get me out!” Not once.

Why do those in Spirit want to communicate with us? The connection of love goes beyond this physical world. They still love us. They want to help us in our lives in any way they can and every time we ask. They are not counting all the times you hurt them, they are not rehashing old wounds, they are free of the challenging dynamics of living in the world. That freedom is difficult for us to comprehend but if we can at least intellectually understand that they hold no grudges then we can allow for their love and help in our lives even though they are not physically with us. All we need to do is allow it. If we are still in the energy of regret and have not worked through their crossing to accept it, then it will be difficult to get their help and therefore difficult to connect with them even through a medium.

When someone crosses they do want to help those who are grieving their loss and the messages a medium will get demonstrate that. The first thing the medium will get is an identifier – such as the medium will describe the person or a common object that the one in Spirit was associated with. This is to tell them that they in Spirit are really coming through. The next thing that comes through is that they are happy, sometimes they will say they are with another person who crossed before them and they are happy. This is to ease the mind of the one in grief. Even the most enlightened spiritual person has a fear of the person crossing as lost, alone or suffering. That worry exists even if it is hidden in the unconscious. Therefore, this second message is to help ease that worry. The third message is the most important. The third message is about forgiveness. This is important. This is THE reason people connect with those who have crossed into Spirit, even if they don’t know it. They either want to say ‘I’m sorry’ or hear ‘I’m sorry’. This has great power. Do not underestimate it. Even if the person wanting to connect is so enlightened as to hold no grudges, and has accepted that any hurt they may have caused the one in Spirit was in due course and they are already forgiven, no intellectual reasoning can replace the power of connecting with the one in Spirit and hearing “I forgive you” or “will you forgive me?”. Nothing holds power like that does. Nothing facilitates healing like that does. The tears may flow at this point and that is how we know the healing is happening. I have sobbed in sessions where I was channeling the messages from a loved one in Spirit. I am sobbing on behalf of the one who no longer has need of tears, this relief of tears is powerful. My clients have sobbed in deep release of the sorrow they have held at bay for so long. This is the power of connecting to those in spirit, those who have left the world behind but still hold deep love for those who feel their departure on a cellular level. This is the healing power of being a medium. All psychics are healers and healing through a devastating loss is the most extraordinary gift we can share.

Once we move through the feelings of regret, guilt, and grief we are able to communicate with our lost loved one on a new level. We can invite them to assist us with our troubles. We can ask them to pave the way of ease through a difficult situation. They will gratefully and joyfully assist all they can, and they can assist in a great many ways. Our parents, siblings, friends and all those we love who have moved into the world of Spirit are always with you and always ready to assist you and will always be a part of your life and who you are.